Have you ever been “ghosted”? It’s when someone you’re dating suddenly ceases all communication with you, without any explanation. It’s a frustrating and confusing experience, to say the least. But what exactly is ghosting, and why do people do it? How can you get over being ghosted? Let’s take a closer look.
So you’ve been on a date, a few dates or even at the just about to call them your boyfriend or girlfriend stage then suddenly you hear nothing. You go from messaging everyday to nada. The days and weeks go by and you hear nothing, they completely disappear.
Ghosting is kinda like the silent treatment and can happen in relationships, friendships and even professional connections leaving the person on the other end hurt, frustrated and wondering what went wrong.
Why do people ghost?
There are a number of reasons why people ghost. Ghosting is a way to avoid confrontation or conflict, its a way to not have to deal with the consequences of their actions or be an easy way out for people who are not ready or unwilling to commit.
How to get over being ghosted
You maybe feeling hurt, sad, lonely and even angry because of the lack of closure, especially if communication has become part of your daily routine. Here are some ways to get over being ghosted.
1. Give yourself some time to mourn the loss of the relationship, even if its only been a short time of knowing each other.
2. Don’t contact the person who ghosted you – it will only make things worse. If they wanted to talk to you, they will reach out eventually.
3. Talk to your friends and family about what happened – they can offer support
4. Move on with your life and focus on other things that make you happy
5. Be kind to yourself and practice self-care
Ghosting has become an increasingly common dating phenomenon, and it can be tough to deal with. Unfortunately, there’s no real answer or way to predict whether someone is going to ghost on you. Remember if someone ghosts on you, don’t take it personally! It has nothing to do with you as a person; the ghoster simply isn’t interested.
By Natasha J Gordon, Love & Life Coach