When was the last time you took some time to give yourself some much needed self-care? As a mum of 4, wife and career woman I remember putting everything and everyone else before myself. Self care ideas didn’t even cross my mind. I actually didn’t even know what self-care was.
I’d buy the kids things, take them out and spend hours trying to fill their day with activities. I’d do everything what my husband wanted me to do, take on extra work and spent time listening to all my family and friends problems yet did nothing for myself.
My husband would tell me to go out and buy myself anything I wanted but for some weird reason I wanted to be a martyr. I’d choose not to buy anything and give up all the things that could make me happy.
So many men and women i’ve met have had similar experiences, for some reason we fell into the trap of losing ourselves after having kids, sacrificing all pleasures for the sake of parenting.
Whilst its true, there are some sacrifices we need to make as parents for example, going out drinking most nights, it doesn’t mean you need to rob yourself of all the things that make you happy.
My tip is to make a list of all the things you love to do and that makes you happy. Aim to get at least three or four of these done a day. They don’t have to be big, for me one of mine is to have a cup of herbal tea or to spend a few minutes rubbing some lush smelling moisturiser over my body.
Here are some of the best self care ideas i’ve come across:
- 1) Have a spa day
- 2) Spend some time flicking through your favorite magazine
- 3) Go to a nice coffee shop and enjoy a warm drink and cake (If you like cake, if not choose something you like)
- 4) Read a book or watch a movie you want to watch
- 5) Take a small amount of money i.e £5 or £10 and spend it on yourself. Make sure its on something for you.
- 6) Visit a new town or city you’ve always wanted to visit. Do this on your own so you can really enjoy yourself without having to worry about pleasing anyone.
These are just a few of my best ideas, i’m sure there’s lots of idea’s you can come up with. It can be hard to think of something in the beginning but stay with it and tell yourself you deserve some self care. Its true, you deserve it. You’ve spent too long giving to everyone else but yourself.
You’ll feel the effects immediately and will be a happier parent, friend, partner and to everyone else you meet.
By Natasha J Gordon, Lead Coach
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